I envy anyone that has the sheer patience to work with people with dementia. I've just got my mother and it's a full time job, so I can't imagine working with multiple cases at a time. Must be exhausting after a day of that! My mother does the stories, too, she'll make up that she was just with someone she hasn't seen in years, or that she knows a random stranger she sees on the side of the road as we're driving and hasn't seen them in ages. There's a shot that opened up early last year just around the corner from us, and she's convinced she knows the owner of it and he promised to give her the shop, despite the fact we've never set foot in it! It's funny, tragic and a bit irritating all in one go. That's probably the most difficult part of it for me, a lot of the repetition, the terrible attitude and the calling me every name in the book she can think of when she gets in said mood is very frustrating to deal with, but you have to keep it in your mind it's not her fault and it's not her saying it, it's the disease.That does sound tough. My mother always knew who I was but she forgot relatives she didn't see as often like my daughter and the repetition is very common. My mum used to make up stories that she believed were real although they were too outrageous to be true.
I used to work in an old people's home where a lady every day used to say she had to go and make her husband's tea and see to her children. Her husband had been dead for years and her children were grown but in her own way she was happy in her little world. Their long term memory lives on within them.
Hope you get to see your family soon.?
I just wish I could get her to sit still when she gets in the mood to leave, because it's reached the point where the second she comes home from a trip, she'll be worn out and ready to sit down, but then just after sitting down she's getting up to leave again, and no amount of chatting or changing the subject or trying to get her involved in other things helps to change her mindset now. She's just ready to walk out all the time, we've had to change the locks on our doors so that you need keys to open them on the inside, because she will walk out and I've had to chase her down a couple of times. It's tough, it's a very tough job looking after her, so I applaud anyone who does so with more than one person, because I have no idea how they cope.